Ten months after his daughter, Israeli Embassy employee Sarah Milgrim, was shot dead alongside her boyfriend and colleague, Yaron Lischinsky, outside the Capital Jewish Museum in Washington, Bob Milgrim said he feels a “deeper connection to the Jewish community [than] we ever felt before.” 

On Tuesday evening, at the conclusion of the Anti-Defamation League’s Never is Now conference in Manhattan, Milgrim was joined in conversation with his wife, Nancy Milgrim, and CBS News reporter Jonah Kaplan. In June, Kaplan conducted the family’s first interview after Sarah was killed.

The support from the Jewish community since Sarah’s death, when she was shot by a gunman who allegedly shouted “Free Palestine” while leaving an event for young diplomats and Jewish professionals hosted by the American Jewish Committee last May, has been “totally overwhelming in a positive way,” said Bob Milgrim. 

The Milgrims spoke days after another Jewish community was rocked by an antisemitic attack last week, in which an assailant drove a truck filled with explosives into Temple Israel in West Bloomfield Township, Mich., one of the largest Reform synagogues in the country, while 140 children were inside. Security guards prevented any casualties in the attempted terrorist attack. 

Two months earlier, an antisemitic arsonist heavily damaged Beth Israel Congregation, the only synagogue in Jackson, Miss.   

“It’s very easy to lose hope with what’s happening, especially with what happened at Temple Israel … and Mississippi,” said Milgrim. “There’s no end to it. But when you have hope you have to act. Even when you don’t have hope, you have to act.” 

Addressing high school and college students in the audience, Milgrim said Sarah was one of only about 15 Jewish students at the high school she attended in Kansas. Drawing on Sarah’s involvement in the Jewish student union while in high school, he said, “you’ve got to be out there and let them know we’re no different from anybody else and we all want to coexist in peace.” 

Milgrim reflected on an incident during Sarah’s senior year when swastikas were painted on the school building. When interviewed by a TV reporter, who asked her what the punishment for the perpetrator should be, Sarah said they “should be told to be more tolerant and nicer.” 

“She didn’t want revenge, she saw the good in all people,” said Milgrim. 

“Sarah was very proud to be Jewish and she didn’t shy away from letting people know she was Jewish,” added Nancy Milgrim. “I encourage you all to try to feel proud of who you are and let people know all the good of being Jewish.”

As the Milgrims continue to say the mourner’s prayer of Kaddish every morning, when the weather permits, while watching the sun rise at a park in their neighborhood —- alongside Sarah’s dog, Andy, and a virtual minyan —- Bob Milgrim said he “knows that we have family everywhere.” 

“It’s more than a connection, it’s family. And that’s a beautiful experience that’s helped us get through this.”

Sarah’s work, which included a stint at Teach2Peace, an organization dedicated to building peace between Palestinians and Israelis, should inspire others “to do the things she was doing, reaching out to others who are not like you, inviting the stranger into your home, learning about other cultures and sharing your Jewish culture with them,” said Nancy. “If you can choose to do one thing to make the world a better place, you will be doing something to honor Sarah.”  

Bob Milgrim, the father of Sarah Milgrim, one of two Israeli Embassy employees who were killed last month at the Capital Jewish Museum, told Jewish leaders on Wednesday that better security at the event where his daughter was slain might have prevented the attack.

Milgrim’s comments were delivered to an audience of Jewish Federations of North America and Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations leaders visiting Washington to advocate to Congress and the administration for increased security funding and other security resources to protect the Jewish community.

“Had there been more security at the event where Sarah and Yaron [Lischinsky] were tragically murdered, had there been more security outside, watching the crowd, I feel that it possibly could have identified the shooter pacing back and forth and possibly disarmed him,” Milgrim said.

Milgrim added that a heavy police presence was necessary when his family was sitting shiva in Kansas following his daughter’s death, including police cars parked in front of the family’s home and a SWAT team a few blocks away.

“It’s unbelievable,” Milgrim said. He noted that his local Jewish community had been targeted in an antisemitic shooting years earlier, in the 2014 attack at the Jewish Community Center in Overland Park, Kan.

Milgrim highlighted that security was an ongoing consideration for his daughter as an embassy employee during her life.

He said that, at one point, the embassy had opted to drive employees home to protect them from protesters camped outside, who threw items at embassy staffers and may have attempted to follow them home.

He said that, later, on multiple occasions, individuals in cars chased his daughter as she left the embassy, screaming anti-Israel slogans at her.

“She would take off running,” Milgrim said. “She didn’t feel so good.”

He urged Jewish leaders to call for “as much security as possible at all events,” including armed security and a visible police presence.

He also reflected on his daughter’s impact on their family, saying that he saw her passion for Judaism and Israel grow as she began preparing for her bat mitzvah, which Sarah had wanted to hold in Israel. 

“That was the spark that started her journey of a love for Israel and Zionism,” Milgrim said. He explained, through tears, that growing up in a small Jewish community in southern Missouri, he “didn’t even know what the word Zionism meant. … [Sarah’s] life’s journey, and her studies, and her work eventually took her to the Israeli Embassy.”